I just watched a film tonight on a whim. It was called “Love Happens.” It was a good film in that it had a depth I didn’t expect and wasn’t the rote Hollywood love story. For me however, what was glaringly obvious was that in my life love doesn’t seem to happen.
In the end, what I saw was the lack of it in my life. In the past I have idly wondered about how people have love more than once in their lives. At the conclusion of this film I felt the frustration of the main character experiencing the potential for real love a second time while I can only long for it just once.
It’s hard not to think how much I must lack as a person to not ever have been very near it. Mostly, though, at the moment I feel envy for those who find it so easily. I even envy the potential pain – because I know that it is only possible to experience deep love if you risk greatly.
Perhaps that is the problem. I know the risk it takes. Therefore in the past when I’ve decided to trust, I dove in the deep end with an open, vulnerable heart – expectant and ready. Finding out after all that talk of oceans that they didn’t know how to swim, or at most only wanted ankle deep waters, made it hard to want to keep climbing that ladder to the high dive board.
But I would again. If someone would talk of oceans once more. It seems they no longer do. Not to me.
So do I see this as a reflection of how unworthy I am? Do I just keep moving forward, pretending-until-I-believe that life without love is still great? Do I give up the biggest portion of who I am to be someone who is more accessible in order to have it? Or do I keep hoping that someone I can be crazy about will cross my path who will love me – as I am? Because honestly, hope is exhausting, and quite frankly, after nearly 42 years, unfulfilling.
I know, I know – I’m not being very positive. I’m sure I’ll find that place of graceful patience again. But for tonight I’m childishly covetous of you who have love and am generally discontented with my life lived thus far without it. Just for tonight, while still trusting the journey, knowing love happens is a horrible reality rather than a wondrous possibility.
2 comments:
I know this is an older post, but if you read my lj from years back you'll see that you and I both dive in deep only to be pulled-under by the one whom we wished could swim. It's in this, being through what I've been through, knowing what Holly has endured; that I know with every ounce of my heart and soul, your Love will come and it won't be long. Don't stop being the strong one. Don't stop diving. It's out there and it DOES happen, though it's never when we expect it. About other things, I'm always here to lend an ear, but trust me above all when I say you will meet your twin-flame [I believe and, for some reason have a very strong urge to write this as fact regardless my inability to know such things] within the next few months-to-a-year. xo
Mox
Mox. No words. So grateful for you. And, humble thanks.
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